I have been so busy this week, so many apologies for the lack of blogging. Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday I was at a conference from work. I got into a few conversations about natural hair. One that stuck out the most was when a co-worker from a different department approached me about my hair routine. She was sitting behind me in a seminar and was staring at my head, I guess. She has two daughters, the oldest one had hair that she compared to one of our white co-workers who has kind of loose curly hair…the co-worker seemed proud that her daughter’s hair was like that (she said it was also long, “down to here”). Her younger daughter apparently has hair like mine but “frizzier” and she doesn’t want to perm/relax the hair. “She’s only 3, so I don’t want to perm it.” This disturbed me a bit, the way so many (black) women automatically consider the perm because they don’t feel like/know how to deal with their daughters’ hair. I was bothered that (it seemed) only because of the daughter’s age was she not getting a perm, while the daughter with long, loose curly hair was obviously prized. Another thing that bothered me was that she kept touching my hair and flipping it around with her fingers like I was her fucking 5-year old.
February 21, 2009
Since she asked, I went into great detail about conditioners, braiding, air-drying, de-tangling, everything because I wanted to convey that she had many options and that my hair routine is so low-maintenance. I plan on e-mailing her too once we get back to the office. I am a kinky/curly crusader, what can I say? ESPECIALLY when it comes to the wee ones.
I just wish more women would at least be open to keeping the hair natural; there are tons of resources/products available now and it can be lower-maintenance, healthier, and cheaper than maintaining a relaxer over many years.
Here is how my hair looked today: (Disclaimer: I literally just took this picture after a long day at work/school and I had it in a bun, and un-bunned it for the picture so it’s a little frizzy. I’m also at the end of my hair-week meaning I will wash tomorrow or Sunday, so the curls are looking frizzy at the front…but check out those back curls, lol!)
Trust me, I feel as tired as I look in these pictures, lol. The weekend won’t bring a respite either, but you just gotta keep on truckin’ (my Texan is showing).